After you’ve left the emotional strain of an abusive relationship, you may walk away with a fragile heart scarred from the deep emotional agony of the relationship. Many, out of protection, close their hearts off and may also feel scared, angry, hopeless, or depressed. In times like this, when your heart feels small and hurt by others, you have the greatest opportunity for creating heart space.
Your heart space is a place of pure love and acceptance within you where healing for yourself and others takes place. Holding heart space in your life happens through nurturing love in what you choose to witness, listen to and become, and happens when you are aligned with your values. Only when your heart space is open can you have a full heart of love, joy, and gratitude.
Steps To Transforming a Wounded Heart
- Calm Any Heightened Emotions – Due to the intensity of what you have experienced, your emotions may be all over the place. Find a quiet place where you feel safe and take a few deep belly breaths, so you can be present, think clearly, and be centered in your truth.
- Identify “Pain Points” – Now that you have a clear mind, look back and pinpoint exactly what event or person caused you to begin feeling this way. Does it extend beyond this person or event? Without knowing the cause of your pain, you won’t be able to fix it.
- Speak Out – Keeping the fear and pain bottled up will only give it more power over you. Tell your story and speak your truth to loved ones who will listen, or you can write about it. As long as you are getting it out of you, you are moving in the right direction. It’s okay if you don’t know how to process what occurred on your own or don’t want to. Many caring professionals can help guide you through this process; seek any necessary help along the way.
- Care for Yourself – Bathe yourself in self-love every day and praise yourself for any accomplishment, no matter how small. Do things that feed your soul and make you happy. Get plenty of sleep and eat nourishing whole foods.
- Open Your Heart – As the pain gets released, you can begin to fill your heart with love, feelings of gratitude, and whatever makes your heart happy. Work to let go of every bit of guilt or anger you are still holding in your heart by doing things that bring you joy and surround yourself with uplifting people you love and will love you in return.
Do not accept a closed-off heart of sadness, guilt, anger, or loss for your life. By opening up your heart through the simple process of creating heart space, you can invite love, gratitude, and happiness into your heart again. To allow joy into your heart again, you must be able to process, tell your story, and make peace with the cause of your pain, which may require help from a professional. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction or mental health issues, contact Avalon Malibu. At Avalon, we prioritize your treatment needs to help you get back to living a life of happiness and vitality. We at Avalon hold to a standard of care that offers our clients the well-rounded support they need through our comprehensive care of evidence-based mental health therapies and concurring effective addiction treatments. Call us today at (844) 857-5992.