Every couple has their problems, but addiction can escalate a relationship to heights they’ve never seen before. When one person in a relationship is struggling with addiction, the entire dynamic can change – and this places the success of the relationship at risk. A 2019 study published in the journal Zero Three emphasizes the effect that this can have on families – such as through parenting and infant experiences – but what about for couples? How do those in intimate relationships manage the ups and downs of substance abuse?
Problem #1: Co-Dependency
Mental Health America (MHA) defines co-dependency as, “A learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another…people with co-dependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.”
While a relationship may already start with co-depedency, this can make the nature of the relationship even more rocky when substances are involved.
Problem #2: Feeling Unheard
Many partners feel as though their partner doesn’t value, appreciate or listen to them when they’re constantly placing substance as a #1 priority. This issue often causes the other partner to feel angry or irritable, depressed or withdrawn as they try to navigate this relationship.
Problem #3: Struggling Together
Those we love can have a significant impact on our beliefs, attitudes and values, and having a partner who abuses alcohol or other drugs can make it feel that much easier for us to abuse them as well. As new dynamics form, some couples even find that their relationship only thrives when drugs are involved – and this is certainly not a healthy foundation for either person to grow on.
If you and your partner are ready to seek help through couple’s therapy and addiction recovery, speak with a professional from Avalon Malibu today. The sooner you and your partner seek help, the better off you’ll be in preserving your health, happiness and relationship.
Avalon Malibu is a world-renowned, California state-licensed mental health and substance abuse recovery center. If you are ready to seek treatment to develop the tools you need to overcome life’s obstacles and be on the road towards happiness, health, and well-being, call us today at 888-958-7511 for a consultation. It’s never too late, and there are people here ready to help you.