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A personality disorder is defined as “a deeply ingrained and maladaptive pattern of behavior of a specified kind, typically manifest by the time one reaches adolescence and causing long-term difficulties in personal relationships or in functioning in society.” According to the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (fourth edition), a personality disorder is “an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.” The National Institute of Mental Health reports that in a 12 month prevalence, 9.1% of US Adults will experience a personality disorder. Personality Disorders are separated into three categories: Suspicious personality disorders, Emotional and Impulsive personality disorders, and Anxious personality disorders. Suspicious Personality Disorders and Characteristics

What If I Don’t Have The Time To Practice Mindfulness? “Ego says: Once everything falls into place I will find peace. Spirit says: Once I find peace, everything falls into place.”- Marianne Williamson “Mindfulness gives you time. Time gives you choices. Choices, skillfully made, lead to freedom. You don’t have to be swept away by your feeling. You can respond with wisdom and kindness rather than habit and reactivity.” - Henepola Gunaratana Making Time When You Don’t Have Time Leadership speakers, spiritual gurus, and organization lovers alike all agree that if you don’t have time to (insert action or behavior here) then (insert action or behavior here) is the most important thing you need to do. If you don’t have time to make time, making time is what you need to spend your time doing. Mindfulness practices are an important tool in anyone’s recovery toolbox for mental health. Practicing mindfulness helps us to connect to ourselves, calm down our heart rate, get grounded into the present moment, and regulate our emotions. For anxiety, depression, panic, OCD, and PTSD, mindfulness can help ease any uncomfortable moment. Making time for mindfulness practice each day is a way to keep maintenance over yourself spiritually, physically, and mentally. Life gets busy when we make our way back into it after treatment. Treatment for mental health is a special time where all time revolves around you, your needs, and being taken care of. Outside of treatment, we have to put all our new knowledge, strength, and tools to the test to live life manageably. Mindfulness practices don’t have to take up large chunks of time, like getting lost in a two-hour meditation. Quite the contrary, mindfulness can be effective in as little as one minute. Short, Simple, Impactful Mindfulness Practices Two methods of mindfulness that are powerful ways to get connected to the present moment are checking and scanning. At any point in time during the day, you can take even ten seconds to close your eyes, focus on your breath, and turn your attention inward. Noticing your emotional state helps you to keep a gauge on what you are experiencing. For more than just a check, try being with your thoughts in a mindful way for one whole minute. Body scanning is a practice to help separate physical sensation from emotional sensation and find peace in between the two. Depression can cause us to feel lethargic, heavy, slow, and unmotivated. Anxiety can get our adrenaline pumping, causing us to feel antsy, edgy, and squirmy. A body scan can take just five minutes. Starting from your toes, mindfully notice the physical sensations in each part of your body. Actively and gently tell your body it can relax. Your mental health is our priority. We make the time to meet your needs as you uniquely need them to be met. Avalon By The Sea offers premiere mental health treatment as one of Southern California’s only mental health treatment facilities licensed to treat psychiatric issues as a primary diagnosis. For more information on our program and a confidential assessment, please call 1-855-464-8409.

The road to long term recovery from mental health disorders is long, but not without reward. As we learn to manage life on life’s terms while coping with our diagnoses, we are able to witness first hand our remarkable development. If you find you’re being hard on yourself for not doing well enough, see if any of these small (and not so small) victories are making themselves apparent in your life. Remember how far you’ve come and use that as inspiration for taking each new step forward. You can do this! Showing Up (and on time!) Our depression kept us depressed. Our anxiety kept us anxious. Our paranoia kept us paranoid. Whatever our diagnosis, we let the entirety of our mental health disorder control our lives. Without the ability to cope and the tools to manage, we missed out on life day after day. Doing life was just hard. Some days, it is still hard. Treatment and recovery for mental health helps us learn how to take life on and show up. Being present for ourselves, for our families, and for the demands of life is a victory in mental health recovery. Showing up on time consistently may seem like no accomplishment for others but a huge success for us. Staying Clean and Organized… Depression can leave us without the motivation to get anything done. Studies have shown that a clean and orderly environment that is welcoming can help alleviate some stressful depression symptoms. Try mustering the inspiration to clean on an especially down day and be left with mess. Recovery for mental health means being able to get out of bed and clean our rooms or our houses; not just once, but day after day. ...Or Allowing For Mess While pervasive mess might be a symptom of mental health disorders like depression, it is the bane of others. Obsessive compulsive disorder, for example, thrives on rules, lines, exactness, and tidiness. Recovery for mental health from OCD means allowing a little bit of mess in your life without feeling completely out of control. Managing Finances Financial management starts with getting a job. If we are able to get, and hold, a job, we are already in a tremendous victory. Learning how to tackle finances one step at a time is a victory with each move. Paying bills, having groceries, putting gas in our cars (having cars) are all major accomplishments. Personal Hygiene Daily practices of personal hygiene can be challenging in different ways for different disorders. We might be too obsessed with hygiene or we might not practice hygiene at all. A balanced hygiene practice is important for self care as well as general health. Avalon By The Sea proudly boasts the title of being one of California’s only licensed facilities for treating mental health as a primary diagnosis. If mental health is preventing you from feeling victorious in life, help is available. For a confidential assessment, call Avalon today at 1-855-464-8492.

Boundaries are lines which set limitations. Geographically, boundaries divide areas of land. Emotional, boundaries help us set limitations on what we are willing to do and what we are not willing to do. Like a line in the sand, a boundary divides ourselves from others. Autonomy Autonomy is a political term applied to autonomous governments. Specifically, an autonomous government is one that has the ability to rule itself. Boundaries help with gaining a better sense of self. Without boundaries, we are easily influenced by everyone and everything. We aren’t able to demonstrate self-knowledge in a way that says, “this is what I want. This is what I need.” Setting boundaries helps us to grow and be ourselves in exactly the way we need to be. Boundaries are not means of control. Ultimately we are never completely in control of things. However, boundaries are a way of setting up some guidelines for how you want to be treated and how you want to engage with others. Self-Care As a result, you are able to better take care of yourself. Child psychology frequently finds that children with a lack of boundaries growing up have a hard time later in life. They are challenged in taking care of themselves or having healthy relationships. When you set boundaries you will be better able to create time and energy for self-care because you prioritize yourself. Having a healthy balance in relationships is a form of self-care in itself as well. Freedom When you set boundaries, you stop saying “yes” to everything that’s asked of you. You stop harboring resentments toward the people you aren’t saying no to you. You stop burning out and burning up in anger. Instead, you start saying no, with love. You have time to do the things you really want to do. You are freed from the prison of stress that comes from not setting boundaries or setting poor boundaries. Communication Setting boundaries can be confusing at first. With boundaries, practice makes...for better boundaries. There’s no such thing as perfect. In time, you will learn more about yourself and your needs, making your communication more clear and precise. Not only will you communicate more articulately about yourself, you’ll be able to ask more about others. Avalon By The Sea offers both certified substance abuse and mental health treatment. One of California’s only mental health facilities capable of treating psychiatric issues as a primary diagnosis. Providing the highest quality care, Avalon is committed to helping you succeed in life long sobriety. It is possible. For more information and a confidential assessment, call 1-855-464-8608.

We hear this term “self-care” a lot in recovery from both mental health disorders and substance use disorders. We have to learn how to participate in self-care. Self-care is important. Having a healthy self-care practice means we are able to self-soothe and make time for taking care of ourselves. Self-care also means that we have learned about our personal wants and needs. We can overexert ourselves sometimes. Forgetfully, we take our new found strengths and run with them. Our disabilities are no longer debilitating and we are liberated to live life more fully again. We can do too much. Self-care is a nonjudgmental, and proactively not self centered way to make time for taking care of ourselves in exactly the way we need to. Self-care can be hard to do. Shame, guilt, and self-loathing make a pretty decent argument in our minds when we think about doing something for self-care. We might tell ourselves we don’t deserve it, we aren’t worth it, we haven’t earned it, or we’re pathetic for needing it. Ouch! Such moments more than others require a little extra self-love and self-compassion. Each person’s self-care regimen will be different. Finding and developing your unique methods for self-care is part of the journey of recovery. Try these suggestions for guiding your way to being a self-care specialist. First, remind yourself it's OK to practice self-care and that it’s good for you. Second, ask yourself what it would take for you to completely enjoy time you spend with yourself. Do you need pampering? Would you like to work on a relationship or part of your relationship with yourself? Would self-care involve spending time on a favorite hobbies, activity, or exercise? Spend self-care time with yourself. Try to put down your phone, stay off of social media, and even out of contact with people for even just one hour. You aren’t isolating, but taking necessary time to reboot. Validate yourself. It would be nice if we could get a gold star for every difficult thing we did in recovery from mental health and substance use disorders. Buy your own sticker set and pat yourself on the back. This journey is completely yours. Own it and be proud! Avalon By The Sea offers premier primary diagnosis treatment for psychiatric disorders as well as dual diagnosis and co-occurring issues. For a confidential assessment and more information on our programs of treatment call 1-855-464-8492.

Should I Drug Test My Loved One When They Come Home From Treatment? Addiction is a family disease. As family members of a loved one suffering from addiction, we witness the extreme ups and downs. From relapse to recovery and back again, we’ve had to witness the destruction faced in our loved one’s lives due to their inability to stop using harmful substances in abusive ways. We want them to succeed in sobriety. Our hope for treatment is that after 30 days to 6 months, they will have discovered they are capable of living sober, for a lifetime. Upon their return home after months at sober living, we want to support them in every way we can. Admittedly, we have some fears. We are afraid when we notice an old behavior return or catch note of an attitude that once troubled us. When our loved ones return home and call up old friends, we stay up worrying at night, praying that they don’t come home intoxicated. Though we are confident in our loved one’s new tools and their commitment to sobriety, we know the depths of addiction are deep. We’ve seen it fall apart before and would be heartbroken to see it happen again. Simultaneously, we don’t want to police our loved ones and make them feel like they can’t be trusted; yet, we feel we must keep an air of accountability not only for their sake, but for our own. Testing a loved one when they are home is a perfectly acceptable practice if it is done with dignity and respect. There are different ways to check for intoxication in your loved one. Some methods are more expensive and complicated than others, but can provide quicker and more accurate results. Breathalyzer Breathalyzing machines are not always cheap or effective. Though a breathalyzer is not quick to fail, it will not indicate the use of substances other than alcohol. For a loved one with alcoholism, a breathalyzer is a quick way to check blood alcohol count. Urinary Analysis Urinary analysis can be performed through a stick in test or an in cup test. Giving a loved one a urinary sample can cause problems in the result. They might predict the test ahead of time and ask someone for a urine sample to use. If necessary or called for, you can supervise their sampling. When a test comes out blurred or positive, a urinary analysis can be sent to a lab for intensive analysis. Pharmacy Grade Drug Test Drug tests can be purchased in the pharmacy to detect what, if any, kinds of substance your loved one may have been using. However, pharmacy grade drug tests are not always reliable. Avalon By The Sea is southern California’s premiere treatment center for substance use disorders and dual diagnosis mental health issues. One of the state’s only facilities licensed to treat mental health as a primary diagnosis, Avalon offers unparalleled care. For a confidential assessment or more information on our program, call 1 (888) 958-7511.

70% of adults will experience a traumatic event in their life- over 220 million people. Of those 220 million, PTSDunited.org reports, 20% of them will develop PTSD as a result. PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder, affects 8% of Americans at any given time, according to the website. That percentage of people, they compare, is equal to the population of Texas. Post-traumatic stress disorder is a rare development in response to trauma. Mistakenly, people assume that trauma is followed by the development of PTSD. While people can have aggravated emotional responses to trauma that may look similar to PTSD, it isn’t PTSD itself. Symptoms of PTSD include

You’ve heard it described in different ways. There’s a statistical chance you’ve experienced it. Some say they can hear their brains powering off and witness their bodies dying. Others say they float in the corner of the room, watching their bodies from afar as their souls have left. According to the CDC, the Center for Disease Control, “Since 2000, the rate of deaths from drug overdoses has increased 137%.” Not every overdose results in death. Many come back for a second, third, fourth, or multiple times chance at life. Experiencing temporary death or a close interaction with it can leave a permanent mark. Near death experiences have been studied within a range of scientific disciplines. From psychology to neurology, scientists are fascinated by the before, during, and after effects of a near death experience. A universal experience of near death involves two scenarios: the floating in the corner of the room or seeing the body from above scenario and witnessing the ubiquitous “light at the end of the tunnel” scenario. Science has an answer for both. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, writes NDE survivor JR Thorpe, “appears to be a product of restricted oxygen flow to the eye.” As a whole, out of body experiences “seem to involve confusion in the right temporoparietal junction in the brain; stress hormones released in a traumatic moment may stimulate emotional memories…” Many feel that these near death experiences have a spiritual component and end up in spiritual transformation. One bad overdose that results in one good spiritual experience is not always enough to convince someone to get sober. There are after effects of a near death experience through overdose that can last. Recovering addicts and alcoholics have recalled waking up from an overdose and wondering why they were still alive. Referred to as “survivor’s guilt”, some feel burdened by what they have woken up to when they rise from their overdose. Still addicted, still in pain, still lost, they are left to reconcile with the life they left for a period of time. An idea of deservedness makes survivor’s guilt conflicting for alcoholics and addicts. Believing they deserved to die, it is hard for them to understand why they didn’t. The shame and stigma that surrounds the illnesses of alcoholism and addiction contribute to this negative effect of an overdose. Avalon By The Sea provides detox and treatment for addicts and alcoholics seeking recovery. Certified for dual diagnosis treatment, Avalon is able to provide comprehensive treatment by concurrently treating co-occurring mental health disorders. For a confidential assessment and more information about our programs, call 1-855-464-8492.

Should I Be Fighting Mental Health Stigma? NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness created a list of nine suggestions for fighting mental health stigma. Here we will discuss 7 of the ways you can fight mental health stigma every day. There are no requirements or certifications for being an advocate to someone with a mental health issue. Mental illness does not make someone different or less deserving of a quality life, fair treatment, or respect. Stand up for your loved one today, and people all over the world living through mental illness.

Recovery is a beautiful and miraculous process. Over the course of just a few months, family members can watch their loved one transform from the picture of desperation to an example of hope. Through recovery, people learn how to change their lives, live differently, and find new meaning. Recovery is not easy in the beginning. Indeed, life is not always easy. Living without the proper coping mechanisms can make life feel like an endless struggle. For many, the ability to get through that struggle doesn’t seem to come. They don’t practice using the tools they’ve been given. Most problematically, they lose their sense of meaning in continuing to try. One of the gifts of recovery is gaining new friends. Growing up in a fellowship surrounded by peers who are in the same phase of recovery is an unparalleled experience. Tragically, one of the realities of recovery is this: not everyone makes it. Drug overdose and death related to alcoholism occurs every single day. A consideration portion of those lives lost are people who were recently in treatment or have been in recovery at some point in their lives. For a loved one in the treatment process or living a new life of recovery, losing close friends and acquaintances is an unfortunate part. What Comes Up Losing a friend to a shared illness is deeply unsettling. When your loved one’s friend passes from the disease of addiction, your loved one will be reminded of how serious recovery needs to be taken. What it is that causes one person to relapse but inspires another to stay sober is a mystery. Some call it luck while others call it willingness. Remind your loved one they are doing a magnificent job in their program. Tell them how inspired you are by their dedication to their sobriety and about your faith in their ability to maintain lifelong recovery. How to be supportive The truth is, unless you are in recovery from addiction as well, there is no way for you to know. Working through treatment to gain a better understanding of oneself so as not to relapse and potentially die and alcoholic or addicted death is a unique journey. Support your loved one by honestly telling them you can’t imagine what they’re going through. You have, likely, lost someone in your life before. Show sympathy and compassion to your loved one by letting them know the pain of grief is universal. Offer to take them to sober support meetings, accompany them to services, and be available to talk whenever they need. Avalon By The Sea offers aftercare and an alumni program to graduates as a way to keep in touch and stay supported. Ongoing accountability through program participation helps ensure long term sobriety. For more information on our long term methods of care, call 1 (888) 958-7511.

Should you stay in contact with an ex-partner when entering treatment for mental health or substance use disorder issues? For most the immediate answer is a resounding, “NO.” Many come to terms with their need for treatment on the tail ends of a recently ended or ending relationship. Different mental health disorders can treat relationships in different ways. From codependency, to dependency, to avoidance, to abuse, relationships can cause both positive and negative effects. Treatment is a time to focus on taking care of yourself and primarily your relationship with yourself. A relationship with a partner might be over for good. Treatment is the perfect time to work with individual and group therapists to process the breakup and relationship. Treatment is not the time to try and focus on getting back together with someone who is unhealthy, abusive, or encouraging of you to continue using drugs and alcohol. Once cell phone privileges are restored, it can be tempting to engage in “exting”. Exting is texting an ex-partner for a myriad of reasons. Before pressing send, try this mindfulness practice to check your motives. Pause. Close your eyes. Breathe. Before doing anything, take a moment to center and ground yourself in the present moment. It’s easy to get swept up in nostalgia for the past or desires for the future. Finding yourself in the present moment will help you better analyze what your true initiative is for reaching out to your ex-partner. Do A Self-Check. Ask yourself, am I feeling lonely? Am I uncomfortable because I am feeling lonely? What are my expectations for my ex-partner’s response? Am I expecting the to make me feel better? If you are in a new relationship, or even examining the status of your new relationship with yourself ask how that relationship is going. A struggle might indicate why you’d seek out something familiar. Evaluate Their Life. Have they moved on? If they are in a new relationship has it gotten serious? When your relationship ended, did they make it clear you weren’t to speak again? Have all your physical needs been settled (i.e. separating of stuff, paperwork, etc.)? Would it be disruptive to their lives to start communicating with them? Some relationships need mending. For relationships that haven’t ended, couples counseling and relationship counseling can be beneficial. When one partner enters treatment, the other often enters their own kind of recovery. Together, through emotional, spiritual, and therapeutic work, a whole new relationship can be born. Avalon By The Sea offers relationship and couples therapy as part of both our mental health and substance use disorder treatment programs. Getting over a relationship and getting through a relationship are both hard challenges to overcome alone. Our trained and qualified staff provide evidence based therapy methods for working with couples and helping you build a new relationship with You. Call us today for a confidential assessment and more information on our treatment programs, 1-855-464-8492.

Music is arguably one of the best non prescription medications in the world. We identify with the sounds, the words, the tempos. Music speaks a language that is recognized from the very cellular makeup of our being. We listen for what we like in music. Often, we escape. Music is listened to most often as a whole, rather than for its individual parts. The brain is relatively lazy, not paying attention to what it doesn’t have to. However, bringing mindfulness into music listening can create a whole new experience. Here are some tips for mindful music listening