One Step Forward, Two Steps Back: The Art of Falling and Getting Back Up in Recovery

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Imagine that everything has been going very well for you in recovery lately. Youโ€™ve met all of your goals that youโ€™ve had set for yourself, and your therapist has commended you on your diligence in meeting those goals. Youโ€™ve been feeling greatโ€ฆbut suddenly it all stops. You become a whirlwind of emotions one evening, and you feel all of this negative energy creeping in. Before you know it, youโ€™ve relapsed, and you feel like itโ€™s all gone terribly wrong. โ€œHow did this happen?โ€ you may ask yourself. โ€œEverything was going so well โ€“ where did it all go wrong, and where do I go from here?โ€

Recovery is a lot like life. There are ups and downs and, at times, we may act in ways that contradict our values. This doesnโ€™t mean that we have failed โ€“ it simply means that more reinforcement is needed, and/or we need a minor adjustment to our treatment regime. Perhaps something youโ€™ve been working on in treatment hasnโ€™t truly โ€œsunk inโ€ for you or you just donโ€™t connect with it โ€“ thatโ€™s okay, as there are many treatment modalities for this very reason. If youโ€™ve relapsed, you will want to work with your therapist to identify what led to this event. There are a number of triggers that could have affected you without you realizing it, such as:

  • Stress
  • No longer receiving rewards for remaining drug-free (contingency management)
  • Over-confidence
  • Depression
  • Upsetting events
  • Rumination
  • Self-sabotage
  • Anger
  • Peer pressure
  • Lack of support
  • Seeking or being reminded of drug use
  • Cravings

Relapse shouldnโ€™t be seen as a terrible event, because you may be able to identify a new trigger that you werenโ€™t aware of before. This new discovery is like finding a gold mine because youโ€™re able to work towards response prevention of that trigger in the future. A 2015 study conducted by researchers from Canada titled, โ€œRelapse Prevention and the Five Rules of Recoveryโ€ denotes several lessons that successful individuals in recovery have found to aid in their journey: 1) create a new life where itโ€™s much easier to not use substances, 2) be completely honest with yourself and others, even itโ€™s uncomfortable or painful, 3) ask for help when you need it, 4) practice self-care every day, and 5) donโ€™t bend the rules that you and your recovery leaders set for yourself. Donโ€™t let relapse set you back. Come back even stronger than you were before. Keep pushing forward.

Avalon Malibu is a world-renowned, California state-licensed mental health and substance abuse recovery center. If you are ready to seek treatment to develop the tools you need to overcome lifeโ€™s obstacles and be on the road towards happiness, health, and well-being, call us today atย 888-958-7511ย for a consultation.ย Itโ€™s never too late, and there are people here ready to help you.

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