Borderline personality disorder is a complicated mental illness which thrives in chaotic relationships and emotional pain. Here are some of the symptoms:
- Crippling Self-Doubt: Having a sense of insecurity is normal and healthy, proving to you that you aren’t a narcissist or struggle with a severe delusional mental illness. Human ability only goes so far. However, living with a chronic low self-esteem could be a warning sign of borderline personality disorder. The lack of self esteem is so severe for BPD that the only validation of self to be received comes from external sources. To cope, you might notice that you: are always seeking attention, fish for a compliment instead of waiting to receive one, copy what others do who seem to know who they are.
- Lack Of Empathy: Ironically, for a personality disorder which begs for others to see and understand, there is little of that when it comes to other people. Especially, that is, when it comes to how your behavior might affect other people. Typically, the borderline personality can range from one extreme emotion to the other. Often, there is no satisfying emotional urges until the burden is placed on another person. Unfortunately, due to a lack of empathy, it is difficult for borderline to see how harmful that can be.
- Abandonment Issues: It is believed that borderline personality disorder stems from a episode of abandonment in childhood. One single episode of traumatizing emotional abandonment can create a lifetime of insecurity and doubt. Avoiding abandonment is a need for borderline personality disorder similar to breathing- it’s necessary. Though many people fear rejection, for borderline it is fatal. Consequently, extreme actions are taken to try and soothe those feelings, like manipulation, jealousy, paranoia, or threatening suicide. Sadly, these behaviors get so out of hand, other people tend to be driven away, creating the borderline’s worst case scenario.
- Problems Managing Anger: Everyone is prone to experiencing anger and rage. Sometimes there are too many emotions and nowhere for them to go. For borderline personality disorder, this experience arises quite often. Sadly, the anger gets pointed at the people they love most, who tend to be those who pose the greatest risk of abandonment and rejection. When borderline starts feeling anger, it comes out in generally mean or cruel ways. They cannot help themselves to what they say because they truly believe that is how they feel in the moment.
Are you or a loved one struggling with borderline personality disorder that is ruining relationships and making life unmanageable? You are not alone. There is a way to make life manageable again. Avalon By The Sea is a mental health treatment facility offering primary care to patients with a primary diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. For a confidential assessment and more information on our programs of treatment call, 1 888-958-7511.